BANKING RULES IN MARRIAGE...NO DEPOSIT NO WITHDRAWAL

BANKING RULES IN MARRIAGE: NO DEPOSIT NO WITHDRAWAL.

Whether you believe it or not, whether you want to be a chauvinist on this matter; well, DO NOT EXPECT TO WITHDRAW WHEN YOU DID NOT DEPOSIT.

It is only an insane person that walks into any bank where you did not deposit and expect to make a withdrawal, and someone might argue that it is possible in terms of using cheque….REMEMBER THE CHEQUE MUST BE ISSUED TO U. LOL

1. Listen to her: It's more important than sex, gifts and solving her problems. Listening helps a woman feel loved and significant. Listening is distinctly different from hearing. Listening is active involving eye contact and appropriate engagement. Communicate back to your wife what you're hearing. Create a safe place, and please remember you don't always have to fix her or her problems. Most of the time just listening will provide her with solutions.

2. Talk to her: Your wife wants to know what's going on inside of you. It sometimes takes a lot of small talk to catch up and get to the point where the man can go a little bit deeper. Life doesn't get solved during the course of a football time out or halftime. Tell your wife how you're feeling. Be real. Be specific. Tell her your fears. You don't always have to be the strong one. Share your failures. Pride keeps us stuck. Break down the barriers of fear and shame. Be courageous.

3. Study her: Men are from Mars Women from Venus. You have to learn the language she speaks, especially her love language. Gary Chapman's 5 Love Languages can be helpful.

4. Encourage her: Your wife needs encouragement on a daily base. If she's a stay-at-home mom let her know that you know she's not a "marshmallow" brain. If she works out of the home, let her know that you appreciate her work skills. Don't buy into the lie of the "super woman" who can do it all; if she can do it all, then you are not needed. Be your wife's greatest cheerleader.

5. Prioritize her: Your wife needs to know that she's more important to you than your job, hobby or any other pursuit including hunting, sports, the guys, etc. Too many men have a tendency to drop the pursuit once the wedding is done. Look at your schedule and see where you're spending your time. Where do your passions lie? Do you consistently make your wife your priority after God?

6. Care for her: Women are natural caregivers, but women need to be cared for in order to enable them and to feel nurtured and complete. Ask her what you can do to care for and nurture her. Help take care of the kids. Women love to see their husbands take care of the kids as they are so close to the mom's heart. This doesn't matter if its kids or grand kids.

7. Prepare her: Go slow. Be tender in preparing her sexually. It may take all day for her to get "ready." For the woman, it's not the end but the process of "getting there." The hug in the kitchen and the call during the day, the text messages and crazy pictures. Men are buttons but women are like grinding machine, you must first prepare it before using. These add to the sexual satisfaction for the woman.

8. Lead her: Be the spiritual leader of the family. Too often it's the woman who does the spiritual leading in the family. Women desire that men lead out in the spiritual headship. This must be servant leadership, self-sacrificial leadership. Don't leave it to the mom to lead out in spiritual upbringing of your children. Once you have to remind her that you are the man, then u are NOT the man. You have a biblical responsibility to lead.

9. Free her: Women have a deep need to have deep relationships with other women. Make every effort to recognize this need in your wives and give her the opportunity to regularly meet with and fellowship with other women. This will help her be a much more "whole" wife.

10. Date her: Don't think this is the lowest priority item. Go out on a regular basis. Just the two of you. Getting away from the house one-on-one is so important. Go away with each other for one week each year. Hang out with each other. It's OK to have crummy furniture and carpet if the money is spent in dating your wife and taking just her with you some place every year to recharge; You definitely need this because it keeps the flame burning.

Please be aware that this is a generalization and not necessarily what your wife would say are her top 10 needs. Please take some time to read this with her and ask her to share what she might list.

FACT:

Treat her like a queen and she will treat you like a king…Treat her like a game and she will show you how it is played.